Here’s my confession, I’m completely obsessed with looking at pictures of biracial babies. If I find a blogger that has half Asian kids I will dig through her archives to find pictures of her kids at various ages.
I guess I want proof that my children have a chance of looking at least a little bit like me. I also love to see other families that look like ours.
I’m self concious about looking like an outsider. To me…the girls look way Asian. Even if you take their very “white” looking hair and other various features…the eyes have it. That slight tilt to the corners, the folds that dip in differently from mine…it tells the world that they’re indeed mixed.
Please don’t take this the wrong way. Obviously I think the Asian people, men specifically, are attractive. I did choose to date and have children with one heh! I’m just sensitive that people think they look like “all Peter” rather than a “good mix”.
I guess it’s just a bit of motherly pride as I want people to make the connection when they see us together. I want to show off my beautiful baby girl. I want to tell strangers that I carried her in my womb for nine months and have the varicose veins to prove it. But I don’t. Instead, I casually mention in the conversation that my husband is Caucasian and hope that they make the connection. ~ Theresa on Off Beat Mama
To keep it fair, here’s a few pictures of my mixed kiddies!
Comments make me smile!
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You kids totally look like you. Mine looked more Asian when they were younger but now my oldest totally looks like my husband which, of course, makes me a little sad
I think mixed babies are beautiful (I’m not biased or anything).
Thanks Christine. I think it’s funny you should say that because I think your boys look so much like you! Maybe we’re all just weirdly self concious regardless of mixed or same race.
I know that your girls look so similar, but I think Emma favours you ever so slightly more than Alexa does. Although, there’ve been a few photos of Alexa that make me say “Yep, that’s all Amber, there!”
Claudia I think you’re right. At least that seems to be what other people have to say about Emma. They also change daily.
I swear sometimes I look at Alexa and all I see is Peter (or his mother). It depends on her mood and the angle I’m looking at her.
I can say this with conviction though. She has MY feet
People make all kinds of assumptions so I can see where this would matter to you. And I totally understand the motherly pride. It takes a lot to carry those babies. I have my “proof” too – LOL! BTW they are just gorgeous!
It really shouldn’t matter because I am, without a doubt, their mother. I’ve never had anyone ask me if they’re adopted or anything jarring like that. Though…no one EVER asks what kind of white they are – but people (older ones in particular) will ask “what kind of oriental” they are. ACK!
Oh and thank you. They’re cuties indeed. Whatever parts they got from Peter and I…they got the good ones!
I have several couple friends that are mixed races and a lot of them feel the same way…that their children will never resemble them but I think it comes from more than just genetics. I think you can see how children resemble parents in their facial expressions, the way they move, the way they create.
And no matter which parent your girls resemble more…they are STUNNING!!
That’s a really good point. Alexa is totally my clone when it comes to temperment. Not the best thing to be honest because we’re both hot headed. Emma (who I’m told looks more like me) is Peter’s temperment match. She’s so chill. There’s a little of us in each girl, as it should be
It’s so nice to read this! I’ve been asked if my daughter was adopted, and I’ve also been asked if I was the nanny. I think it doesn’t surprise me because while my children are half Chinese with brown hair and eyes, I look very different with curly red hair and blue eyes. After high school biology, I pretty much figured they wouldn’t get any of my features. But I do think it’s true that as they age, they start to resemble me.
I always wonder what it’s like to have a mini-me as a parent. It’s an honest feeling, though of course I would t have it any other way. (plus, growing up as a redhead sucked
I was so sad when I realized my blue eyes would never make it to my kids. Maybe their kids have a chance LOL. I’m thrilled that they look like each other though. Everyone will KNOW they are sisters, and in the end that’s more important than which parent they look like.
It’s funny though. You could pick apart both their features and find the most random things that definiately come from one of us. Like feet or toes or eyerbows ;D
Im pregnant now 9weeks in. I’m white and my husband is full Taiwanese. We’ve had a lot of, um, interesting outings in the area we live. Lets just say not everyone is biracial friendly. I’m a little nervous about when the baby is born. Any advice? I’m excited but the area we live in and around doesn’t have a lot of Asian influence. I want he or she to understand both sides of their culture. Advice is greatly needed